"Dating" Dilemma What men want ... and dread - Part I

Sunshine, chill, coffee shop, vanilla latte, laptop, 20% battery, a topic, and my thoughts. How to make sense of this? There are so many personality types, surely everyone's taste is different; surely every man wants something else... do they?

Someone we can love and loves us back

We are human and as such have emotions even if we fail to express this most of the times. We want to take care of you and we want to be loved, we need your love! That's what keeps us going. We want to be the providers, we want you to lean on us sometimes, we want to feel that we are the solid rock in your life. Male is seen as the stronger sex, it's in our blood, we need to feel that and no we don't want to dominate you but take care of you.

A life-long friend

Not just a friend but best friend. A person you are on the same wavelength with, like the same things, enjoy similar activities, can communicate flawlessly and who can tolerate our issues and sometimes disgusting habits.

A personality

It's note very interesting if your aim is to be a housewife. It's also not great if your main goal is world peace. We can't all have Mother Theresas and frankly we don't want that. But we do want someone with a personality, someone with an opinion and goals in life. 

Companionship not dominance

If you are one of those domineering ones then I feel sorry for you. Men can sense that from miles away and avoid at all cost. We hate to be told what to do, handled as a child. We hate to be checked on what we are up to all the time and we do need our cave sometimes. You have to find the right balance otherwise you will frustrate your man. Remember, he has to feel that he is the stronger sex. Women can figure this out I'm sure...

Good sex

You may be surprised that this is not on top of the list but sex is not as important as you would think. Where we normally fail is communication. We may be shy or embarrassed to say what we like or the opposite we take what we want not respecting you. Obviously both will have a negative effect on the relationship and I would encourage you to be forward with your partner in this topic and try to discuss your preferences, likes or dislikes. Sex is something you can easily work on in a relationship.

Someone not easy

If you can't hold yourself on the first (or first couple of) dates we are not interested in having a relationship with you. If you can't say no to me, how can I trust you to say no to the guy sitting next to me? If you give good sex straight away, we will go back for more but that's it. We like girls who have respect for themselves.

Someone hot

Every single men would naturally turn their head if Pamela Anderson walked past them on the street. It's more of a question whether you are too embarrassed or proud to do so. But no doubt we appreciate beauty. If you told me though that you wouldn't get excited if Becks was in the same steam room with you, I wouldn't believe you. We all like eye candy but it doesn't mean we would cheat on you. It also doesn't mean that I could live my life with Pamela, there is a personality that has to be attached which is at the end of the day much more important. The bottom line is, don't get jealous for a silly reason and your beauty comes through your personality just as well.

That's it for now. The list could go on but first, I would like to hear what you think?

Secret Male Blogger 

XOXO