Dating Dilemma - He is not that into you

So I watched a couple on the tube today, I found it so cringe worthy I had to close my eyes and look away. When I got off the tube I thought I would blog about it, as actually many girls face the issue that he is just not that into you.

Sometimes, we just have to accept that the guy we like doesn't like us back. When you find yourself wondering, "Why isn't he calling? Why doesn't he care?" it's time to move on to the other fish in the sea--there are plenty of them. As much as it hurts, you have to face the reality that he's just not that into you--and then move on.

Why are they just not into you?
Be honest with yourself
The good way to cope with the pain is to not lie to yourself like you don't care at all. Just accept the truth that you thought wrong and you got hurt but it's all going to be okay. The way you deal with your loss is part of who you are, what made you you

Get to know the truth
Some say that waiting is the most important part in relationships. But sometimes, waiting will fray your nerves. You walk back and forth in your room staring at the phone which may never ring; You don't know which kind of songs to listen because you don't know you should be happy or sad. So, get the truth. Don't go and ask, "Do you like me, or will you ever do in this life? though you really want to know. Guess the possibility in his words with your true mind without any wishes or hopes. Ask something in romance zone and see how he responds. Just because he doesn't call you for a short time, maximum 3 days, don't jump in the conclusion and rush into another guy.

Don't push him away by coming too strong
Don't call him first, text him sometimes if you don't want to lose contact at all. If he doesn't like you in first month, there's no way for you to drive him there after that so, be fast if you think you have some techniques to make him like you. Whatever you are trying, just don't show your mind to him; guys don't like that and they don't respect that kind of girl. Play it cool. Sometimes you want to give him nothing but honesty but if you can wait and swallow your feelings, you may have longer time to give all your honesty.

Why do men need to pull away?
After experiencing the closeness and intimacy of a partnership, the "we" state, men need to regain their sense of self with the "me" state. After they reconnect with themselves, they will then be ready to experience more intimacy. For most men, intimacy is like an all-you-can-eat buffet. They experience it, enjoy it and then become full. They need time and space to feel hungry again.

In healthy relationships, men do not pull away out of anger or frustration about their relationship. If your partner is pulling away out of anger, or is simply avoiding you, there is likely something else going on. Also, rubber banding does not happen when a couple is newly in a relationship. This cycle evolves over time. If he is pulling away early on in the relationship, there are probably other issues affecting his interest that may or may not be related to you.

A woman's reaction to the rubber band may push men further away.
Unfortunately, this cycle can be quite upsetting to a Venusian. She wonders, "Is it me? Did I do something wrong? Does he still love me?" These painful thoughts often cause women to chase their partner with demands for an explanation. "Why haven't you called me?" or "What's wrong?" When a woman reacts to the rubber band by chasing, it can cause a Martian to pull away even more -- perhaps stretching until the rubber band breaks. He may feel pressured because his partner doesn't trust him, or he may even feel that he is incapable of making her happy.

At other times, Venusians convince themselves that it is "wrong" to contact their partner, that they must refrain from even talking -- and that whoever talks first loses. Of course, while they are determined not to fold, they are also waiting by the phone, checking their voice mail, checking their e-mail, or checking that lump in bed lying beside them for signs of life.

There are so many confusing messages out there for women. If you find yourself in this situation, here are a few things to remember:

This cycle is a normal pattern for men -- he is not playing with you. Every woman knows how wonderful it is to see your sweetie after some time apart. His heart feels that for you whenever he pulls away and it's a positive experience. Let him go... and trust that he will come back.
While he's regaining his sense of self, maybe this would be a good time for you to regain yours as well. Instead of waiting and worrying, why not visit with some girlfriends? Catch up on your reading. Garden. Meditate. Get a pedicure. Enjoy your life.
You are allowed to make contact, but try to speak his language when you do. One idea is to ask him for information. You can ask him something like, "Remember that movie you were telling me about? What was the name of that again? I was thinking of renting it." Appeal to his sense of being the expert by asking for his help or advice.