"Dating" Dilemma The "Seven Year Itch" (1955)

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"When his family goes away for the summer, a so far faithful husband is tempted by a beautiful neighbour (Marilyn Monroe)"

The Itch!

We were just kids when we got together and more like friends than boyfriend and girlfriend towards the end if I am honest. But something strange happened once the relationship got to the seventh year its like a sickness, infection or just a magnet that pulls you apart. Some get past the itch and others / most go apart their separate ways.

Year one - Three 

Things are lovely he gets you lots of flowers, gifts and happy moments together you have no worries really its a fairytale. 

Year Four - Five 

Things become more of a routine you get used to the person and seek more excitement, this takes more date nights and work. You need to ensure that you work on a relationship it's like a flower you have to water and feed so it blossoms. 

Lets skip a few years and get to near seven years 

This is so strange he starts to look at other girls and you start to wonder is this the correct person? Is life exciting enough? You may have become bored - but its hard to explain you just get the itch! Like a bug or a cold, it's strange. 

His mind wonders and your mind wonders - You have two choices now fix it or walk away?! There is good news you can fix it if you face it. I think many are in denial, they feel that the person changed and you changed. But I think what people need to know if that the relationship changes like a rainbow or an onion. Every year you peel away another layer and every relationship goes through hard and good times.

What can you do: Some Top Tips To Avoid The Itch 

Keep communication open
This does not mean having the essentially the same conversation every evening about your day. It means pushing yourself not to bite your tongue, to say what is on your mind. Too many couples constantly walk on eggshells or wind up using distance to avoid conflict. This only leads to building resentment or disconnection.

Solve problems as they arise
After a big argument it's all too easy to just make-up and sweep the issue under the rug, rather than circling back and trying one more time to put the problem to rest. But if you don't, it becomes just another land mine that you have to carefully walk around. If you're always looking down at your where your stepping, you never can really look at each other.

Keep your ear close to yourself
Or really look at yourself. Moving too fast, going on auto-pilot can make it difficult to hear the early creaking sounds of change inside you. Periodically slow down, assess the State of You, update your need list and vision of the future. Then share it with your partner.

Update your vision as a couple
What do you both envision in the next year, five years, ten years? Again, the key here is being open and honest, not polite and vague. It's not so important what you say as you both have the ability to say it. This is what will help you both narrow the gap between your daily life and your inner needs.

Make it a 3-some
Finally, if any of this seems too difficult or overwhelming, get help. Even a few sessions with a counselor or minister may provide a both safe place for getting these important issues on the table, and someone who can help ask the hard questions.

What happened to us we split up and why because we were not a match but its not true in all cases. Now I have found love so it shows there is love and life after the Itch! 

Thanks,

What do you think? Have you been through something similar? 

Secret Blooger XOXO

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